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Letting go of your birth family
This pipe was held October 10, 2001, in our practice room in Tilburg. The spoken text has been slightly revised subsequently to facilitate reading.
It gives me great pleasure to be with you again. You are all warriors. Your presence in a physical body on earth today talks about your courage and your willingness to confront the darkness inside and outside of you and enlighten the light of your consciousness. You are warriors in a spiritual sense and your armament consists of both compassion and discernment. We can not conquer the fears and illusions only by love and compassion. These essential qualities female need to be supplemented by the masculine qualities of clarity and discernment. Compassion allows you to receive the light heart of any expression of duality, for example by recognizing the light of someone's soul, even if his personality is full of negativity. Discernment makes you aware of the presence of fear and energy-related power in such phrases and allows you of you behind, leaving them out of your energy field.
To find what you are, you must let go of what you're not. Discernment helps you let go of what you're not. It is the "power of the sword", the energy that helps you ask your limits and find your own way. I call the male energy and it is a necessary complement to the feminine qualities of understanding and forgiveness. I stress the importance of the "sword of discernment" in this post because it applies well to the topic we will discuss today.
I want to talk about your relationship with your parents and your birth family. When you take a path of spiritual growth, one day you are either faced with this question. Your birth in a physical body could be seen as a descent into darkness, provided that separate it from any concept of sin or guilt. The birthing process is really a deep dive that you consciously decided somewhere in your soul. Deep in your soul, you've decided to take you on this current incarnation and then you had a sense of confidence and perseverance necessary to accomplish this mission. But just to dive, so to speak, bathe in a state of unknowing, a temporary state of unconsciousness. As soon as you enter the material reality of the earth, your consciousness is veiled and she is mesmerized by the illusions that are nothing other than deeply embedded habits of most people on earth. This is the thread where you're stuck.
When you enter the earthly life the memory of the "other side" is still fresh and vivid. But you do not have words to express it, no way to communicate the reality something as simple as unconditional love and security that surround you wherever you go. The energy of Home is still obvious to you, like water to fish. But then you enter the physical world and the psychological reality of your parents. You stretch their arms, you want to keep alive the feeling of home but you feel to be cut, as if caught in a net. Such is the trauma of birth, his physical appearance as well as deeply spiritual.
The net that catches you in your fall is mainly woven by the lifestyle of your parents, their conception of life, their relationship to themselves, their hopes and desires to you. When you were born, the collective consciousness of the earth was still under the yoke of the ego, as it still is now. Times change, but there is a kind of incipient phase where things need time to set off before real change only takes place in depth. Now, you're still pretty young and the interior work you do is vital in this regard. So when you came on earth, you are entered in a reality dominated by an ego-based consciousness and you are familiar with it through the energy of your parents.
When you enter the reality of ego based consciousness, as represented by your parents, you're dealing with a number of illusions pervasively present, among which I will mention three.
The loss of control
The first illusion is that of loss of control. This illusion makes you forget growing up and becoming an adult, you are the creator of everything that happens in your life. Most people do not recognize what is happening in their lives as their own creation. They often feel they are victims of "higher powers" who make and shape their lives. This is the loss of control.
The loss of unity
With the plunge in the collective human consciousness, as described by your parents, you also lose your sense of oneness with all that exists. The evidence of the fundamental unity of all things is slowly eliminated from your consciousness. We encourage you to build your personal ego. According to ego based consciousness, we are all essentially separate beings, who are fighting for survival, food and recognition. We feel to be confined in our body and locked into our psychological reality without any connection to the "other". Such is the illusion of separation and the tragic sense of loneliness that comes with it.
The loss of love
Then comes the loss of love, that is to say the feeling of joy and unconditional security belongs to you, as a human right natural birth. Passing the plane of the earth, where the energy of love is not obvious at all, you gradually begin to confuse love with all kinds of energy that do not love, such as admiration, wealth or emotional dependence. These confused notions of love affect your relationships and basically you are continually seeking something outside of you to regain that sense of unconditional love that is actually inside you.
How these illusions or losses affect you depends on the specific energy of the parental home and your family circle. Generally, parental awareness is a compound of ego and heart, fear and light. There are areas in which your parents are probably very attached or clinging to illusions mentioned above. But other points, they may be brightly lit, for example by having made a specific experience of suffering and inner growth that has opened their heart. The particular manner in which they are attached to the illusions of the ego is different for each parent or each family. When you enter this specific configuration of energy that makes up your family home, your consciousness is wide open and still has very little sense of personal boundaries. As a baby, you absorb the energies of your parents in depth, as a background printing that has a big effect on how you live it more later. There yet no filter. Only much later, when you become aware of yourself, roughly at the time of puberty, you gain the awareness necessary to filter these energies and find out what looks good and natural and what does the is not.
You first attach to the paradigm of your parents, then as you grow and you become more aware of yourself, you begin to question their conception of things by searching your personal identity. This process of psychological growth is very close to the transition from ego to heart. The natural stages of life on earth, biological cycles and psychological, seasons, are correlated with the stages of natural growth in the spiritual sense. The transition between the ego and the heart often takes place in parallel with the passing of restrictive energy-related fear, which controlled your birth family.
The cosmic birth trauma that you experienced during your individual soul is born, to some extent, repeated each time you start a new life on earth. At the time of your birth, your parents belong to the energy of the earth. They have already adapted to this dimension of the laws in force here. Often restrictive laws are not at all obvious to the child. Parents are then based consciousness ego for the child, the energy of three illusions. The child meets them through the parental home, and how they took shape in the parents strongly influence children for the rest of his life.
Especially during the first three months the child absorbs its environment very deeply. The energies of his parents settle to the bottom of his conscience, without the child can defend themselves by rational thought. On the other hand, there is still a "piece of heaven" in his memory, a parcel of his conscience by non-tinted illusions, who knows love, mastery and unity as a state of natural being. This clearly collides with the ego based energies that surround and this creates a very painful conflict. This may tempt a child to leave and return "home" and this can cause serious resistance to life at the beginning. In fact, the cosmic birth trauma repeats itself.
How the child manages Does this collision or conflict of energies? Most of the time it closes plots himself. Plots of the consciousness of the child go into hiding. The child will comply with the energies of his parents, adapt, because it depends entirely on them from the start. The child is in a very vulnerable state physics and has a great desire to be nurtured and loved by his parents. His memory of the natural state of unity, love and mastery is actually the gift of a child his parents but they are often unable to receive this donation, as they are blinded by the Energy illusions. They are then unable to truly receive the child .
course, parents were also children and moved by the same process. Parents do not force your fears and illusions in their children. But as adults, they have unwittingly absorbed many energy based consciousness of ego.
At the time of birth, parents often experience a temporary enlightenment. Watch this innocent little creature out of the uterus and venture into the world, so trusting and vulnerable, stirs a deep sense of respect from almost everyone. This holy instant opens wide the doors of room in the consciousness of parents and, unwittingly, they have access to the kernel in them that God knows the unconditional love and unity. They come for a time in a sacred space and they perceive that they are beyond the illusions. But often it is only a temporary state of happiness because, after things calm down and return to normal. Their modes of thought and feeling tend to fall into their usual patterns. And then this opening to a heart based consciousness closes.
What does it take for the growing child? Most children choose to respond so strongly to the frame of reference for their parents that they lose contact with the original energy of their souls that they were still very conscious in their early incarnation. In this first phase of life until puberty, they are so busy focusing on this world and get love and attention from their parents that they themselves forget who they are.
How does this affect the child there? It has an insatiable desire for love and security and stumbles when plots full of energy parental fear or blocked, he is upset. He suffers and feels abandoned. But he will hide his emotions to himself, because they are too painful to live consciously when we are in such a state of vulnerability and openness. What the child is that he will put on blinders and create illusory images of love. To survive emotionally, it will allow itself to be deceived by the false images of his parents, because without love is unconditional, conditional love seems better than nothing. Generally, the child will fall back on itself to get the love and security he needs and he remembers the Foyer. And so it will take false energies of love. For example, it will confound the pride of a parent for some of its successes or emotional need of a parent towards him with love.
When the child does something that his parents are proud and for which he receives compliments, he can feel his heart opened by the pleasure of being loved and appreciated. But if the parents' pride does not come from a true understanding of the child, if it is not based on what the child sucks, but more about what society expects of him, then that pride is really a kind Poison. The child is rewarded to comply with external criteria, then love means that one starts listening to the criteria of the inner child what he wants done to himself in this life. When attention is always focused on external success, the child will be fooled, he will believe that success is equal to the love and it will tend to feel guilty when he is not "what is good" what it is supposed to external criteria. Adult, he may not recognize when its limits are exceeded or when he works too. He will find it just feels driven to do more, not understanding why overwork has become an addiction.
Another distortion of the true energy of love occurs when the child begins to confuse love with emotional dependency. Many children have the feeling of being loved when their parents need them. In fact, they fill a void in the hearts of their parents, a vacuum whose parents have not taken care and when the child enters, he offers himself as a surrogate. It seeks to provide love and support that parents miss. He wants to please them in this way and get them the love he so sorely lacks. But this kind of service is of course not love. This is a dangerous entanglement of energies that will create great difficulty latest in both relationships between parents and children and relations intimate that the child maintain an adult.
Many parents have experienced a lack of unconditional love in their childhood. They have not really been received by their parents. That left them with deep pain and sense of abandonment. When their turn, they have a child, they welcome him with mixed signals. On the one hand, there is true love in them but on the other hand, there is this subconscious desire to compensate for this lack. Parents often try to heal their emotional wounds through their relationship with their child. When they do it unconsciously, they use the child as a substitute parent, child is supposed to give them the love they so desperately missed when they were children.
When this happens, the messages "I love you" and "I need you" are completely mistaken for the child. The energy of the child will no longer be his, because it will be sucked by the need for parent and child will find it very well! This will give him a sense of security that led him as an adult, to have the feeling of being deeply loved by someone when its energy is exhausted and owned by that person. He (or she) will feel loved when stretched to its limits maximum he can give. He will perform the same emotional dependency and jealousy and possessiveness as a form of love, so that these energies are diametrically opposed him. This tragic loss of self arises from the confusion of love with need.
far I have emphasized in coming to earth as a child, you are overwhelmed by an ocean of oblivion, a net of illusions that at first seems very chain you deeply. But still, from the perspective of the soul, you consciously allow yourself to be led astray. Deep inside you, when you incarnate on earth, you have the confidence to find the solution to get away. It is your mission to find within the world, a way out illusions and bring the energy of the solution, the energy of love and clarity and make it available to others.
At certain moments in your life, you will have the opportunities and possibilities that will help you complete this mission. As you grow, you meet people or situations that will invite you or challenge you to find out who you are. You will be gently pushed or, if you're stubborn, violently provoked by life "Untangle the knot." You need to let go of the false images of love that is part of your education, your parents' energy. This can cause an identity crisis similar to what is described in the first part of this book as the first stage of the transition from ego to heart. You may feel that nothing is certain and everything what you believe is in question. True, your soul will return to bring you back every pebble in the Foyer. It strikes at your door constantly until you open it and you release it.
The major events of your life arrange always offer you opportunities to grow and return to what you are. But it takes courage and determination to go after this quest and regain the energies of the newborn, not tainted by the illusions of loss of control, love and unity. Probably you will find yourself in opposition to the energy of your soul for a time because it can distract you from what you considered normal and appropriate for you. Your soul may seem an odd invited, since you're familiar with the usage of the world, your family home.
This requires both energy Men's self-awareness and insight and the feminine energy of love and understanding for freedom of conscience based on the ego. With regard to your parents, discernment means that you are taking away with the restrictive energies governed by fear that you have nurtured. Remember the importance of energy of the sword I mentioned at the beginning. To let go of your birth family in a spiritual sense, you should be able to distinguish between energy and yours and to cut ties that limit you and you suffocate.
This does not necessarily pass through the expression of your anger or frustration with your parents or your telling them they are wrong about you. This may be a good thing sometimes to clarify your position or to talk about your feelings towards them. But often they do not understand what you are trying to tell them. They may not be in resonance with the part of you that is different and in conflict with their lifestyle. You free links to energy parental means first and foremost to free your mind and emotions of that energy. It you look and see how you live implicitly by illusions of your parents, according to their precepts and prohibitions based on Fear and Judgement.
When you are clear on this and you let go, you will be free to forgive them and actually leave the parental home. Only after having ruled the links internally and taken responsibility for your life that you can really let your parents live their lives. You have clearly said "no" to their fears and their illusions (the sword of discernment), but at the same time you will see that your parents are not identical to their fears and illusions. They are also children of God trying to fulfill their divine mission. When you see this you can see their innocence and forgive them.
In a sense you have been victims of your parents, when they represented the conscience of the ego in childhood. You lived temporarily and partially by their illusions. You were a child and you had no choice. But you've got one of the best opportunities of your life to transcend your feeling of being a victim. Recognizing the profound energy footprints dating back to your childhood and consciously choose those that you are good and which are best drop, makes you a free person. That's control.
So you do subconsciously adapt more desires and expectations of your parents when they are not yours. At the same time, you are no longer in rebellion against them. You have the ability to recognize the false images they have available as you do not belong, period. You do not need to judge your parents you have responsibility for these aspects. You can be both in love and discernment.
You could say this: you are introduced to the consciousness of the ego by your parents and it is through them that you transcend, by freeing them in love and forgiveness and recognizing you as master independent as you are.
Lightworkers and their parents
I would now like to talk specifically about the soul of the craftsman of Light in connection with his birth family. Often, Lightworkers carry within them an additional task to their parents or their birth family. When they come upon the earth, the lightworkers have the specific intent of awakening, of freedom from ego based consciousness and plant the seed of the consciousness of Christ on earth. More than others, they want to teach, heal people and help them grow into a consciousness that is based on the heart.
For this reason, many lightworkers are born of parents in families that are very heavily trapped in the reality of ego consciousness. Because their intention is to break the rigid patterns and blocked energy, lightworkers are attracted like a magnet to these problem situations where energy is stagnant, as in a deadlock. Artisans of Light comes with a certain quality of consciousness, a spiritual sense that makes him someone different, that does not match the expectations and ambitions of the family. Somehow, the architect of Light will defy the basic concepts of this family, just by what emanates from him and what he expresses as his truth. So almost instinctively, it will do anything to move and move again energy.
While lightworker wants nothing more than being in the service of his parents and his family, he is often regarded as the original, even the black sheep. When the inner beauty and purity of the child lightworker are not recognized often get lost in intense emotions of loneliness and even depression.
In their early incarnation, artisans Light have confidence in their hearts they will find their way out, they will exceed the energy restriction of their birth family. But when they are born on earth and grow, they are subject to the same problems and the same confusion as the other children. In a sense, they live more deeply and intensely. Because they are spiritually awakened souls, often older and wiser than their parents, they are very aware that something is wrong with the energy of their environment. Internally, they are in direct conflict with the energies of parents, they do not understand or are not in resonance with their thinking or behavior. This shock causes great distress to them, given their kindness and sensitivity. They must find a way to survive emotionally and deal with the fact that they love their parents and at the same time, are very different from themselves. This causes many problems for lightworkers, loneliness, insecurity and fear of poisoning, depression and self-destruction.
Therefore, your journey on earth and in places of darkness where energy is blocked and hostility is not without risks. It's a dangerous mission. Remember not that I have called you "warriors"! It is for this reason. You're like the pioneers who venture into strange and unknown territory. There are no signs or markers. The environment in which you begin your journey is inhospitable and not like your home. You'll have to recreate the energy of the home by yourself, with your own feelings as a compass and your intuition. Light as a craftsman, you are a pioneer who wants to break the boundaries of old patterns of thought and stifling free blocked energy within. You are almost always the first to do so around you. It was only Later you meet your soul mates. This is what distinguishes you lonely struggle in brave warrior you are. You must find your own way out and once that is done, you will attract your minds like yours, people who reflect your state of being awake.
This lonely battle that you must cross to find your light for you is the greatest burden. In terms of your soul, you chose this path consciously, but live as a child of flesh and blood is a painful thing that hurts you deeply. I urge you to feel and recognize the pain in you, because it is only by connecting you with it you can transform and liberate you. Once you know the injured child in you who carried the cross of disaffection on the fragile shoulders, you will enter the heart of your burden. When you walk in his heart, the solution is near. You just have to embrace the pain of this child with a pure and profound attention. This attention, an energy of compassion and deep respect extend to the child. You remove the cross just by being present to yourself and loving part of you that really is different. This is how you bring the child home and you meet your mission pioneer.
Resolving karma family
The task of the Lightworkers to their birth family is to become what they are. In doing so, they accomplish their mission. This is not part of their task of changing their family's not your job to change anything outside of you. You're not here to make this world a better place. You are here to awaken you. And yes, when it will happen, this world become a better place, because your light will shine and will also bring joy to others and enlightenment. But do not focus on the world, whether your family or any other relationship.
The real work is to let go of all those pieces of fear and ego-based illusion that you so deeply absorbed as children. Awareness of these energetic imprints that have in part created your personality and you release patches that do not belong to you, is an intense and unsettling. It's like removing all the layers of the onion, as born again.
By insisting on the intensity of this inner process, this second birth, I hear not discourage you. Secondly, I want you to have a deep respect for you. You are the bravest warriors I know. You are pioneers who, by turning on your light into places of darkness and hostility, prepare the way for a new consciousness on earth.
This is not your job to turn on the light in the heart of someone else. They have to do. You can provide a spark, lead by example, but you are in any way responsible for enlightenment on the other. It is very important to emphasize that, especially in regard to your birth family. You often feel instinctively as children and adults more consciously, you should save your parents about their fears and illusions. In addition, you often think you have failed in this task. You have the feeling of not being really able to help your parents how you had envisaged.
This line of thought is based on a misperception of what it really means to "help" and what your duties to your parents. In reality, the situation is this: since the time of your birth, you have absorbed the energies of your parents very strongly, as if they were your own. You can tell the difference between where you start and where they end. Because you also absorbed their fears and illusions, you came in contact with their emotional burdens. These burdens they have been passed down for generations on both sides of the family. There may be in a karmic aspect, which means that the same pattern is repeated continuously, until the spell is broken. This is what one might call a family karma. There may be patterns in relation to an energy imbalance in male or female, energies resulting from old traditions slavery, patterns belonging to diseases, etc.. This sort of karmic burden is resolved when the energy is released and locked inside is no longer transmitted to the next generation. The family karma is resolved when at least one family member breaks the link by releasing the emotional burden he has absorbed since childhood and was perhaps even present in his genes.
The family member who breaks out the fact first and foremost with the aid itself. This is to focus on its domestic growth and expansion. This growth and expansion have an effect on energy family. They open to other family members can also find their way out. Artisans of Light which has freed himself from the emotional impasse provides to other members of his family an energetic trail. It accomplishes this through his work inside and what emanates from it, not trying or pushing others to change and move forward. His energy show them that it is possible to change, and that's all she needs to do.
That members of the family to choose to follow the trail. You are never to blame and your spiritual mission is not dependent on the decision of someone else to change or not. You can very well free you from karmic burden that your family has charged you and be ridiculed or dismissed by it for that, and yet your mission has been a complete success. You have defeated the hypnotic hold that karmic patterns can have on a family line and if you have children, you do not transmit their emotional burden. That is your spiritual mission.
Imagine that you live in a barren valley and dry. All your community says you can not get out of this valley, that is all that exists. You seem to be the only one who remembers it lands are much more lush and fertile. After careful consideration, you decide to try your luck and you get out of this valley. The climbing takes you a lot of strength and energy. Not only the slope is very steep but there is no sign or markings. In climbing, you leave a trail behind you. At some point, you come out of this valley and the landscape that extends to your feet overwhelms you with joy and gratitude. You knew that there was indeed something more like your home than your homeland. With enthusiasm, you look down and find your family. Want to come and join you and marvel at this magnificent view. Want to share your victory. But you see nothing but people down there and the ones you see in the distance does not seem at all interested in your journey.
This often happens to the souls of lightworkers. I ask you not to grieve at the loss of your family. You have offered them a great service out of the valley, clearing the way and leaving a trail. It will remain there and one day it will be used by whoever wants to get out of this valley. This track is an energetic space you have available to them.
Development This track was your goal with these parents being born in this family. This is not your purpose to drive up or wear them on your shoulders! This is not your job. Whenever you try to drag, figuratively, your parents or your family at the top of this steep hill, you slow your growth and you're disappointed or disillusioned. This is not the path of spiritual growth or alchemy. Those you love and who you want to share your light may choose to stay in the valley a century or more. It affects them. But one day, in their time, they will find a small trail that goes up and they will think: "Hey, it's interesting, trying to go up there and I no longer amuses me down here. And they do. They begin their journey of personal growth, their ascent towards the light. And what is wonderful, absolutely precious is that they discover landmarks along the path, a path to follow! They will go through their own battles but they have a beacon to light them. A pioneer, you have cleared the way through a wild and unknown territory and this route you traced will be borrowed, with gratitude and honor.
To be truly free and regain control of your spiritual being independent you must let go of your birth family. You need to liberate, not only as their child, but also as their parent. Let me explain this double bond. The child in you needs to let go of the hope that your parents will give you unconditional love and security. It must look to you for that and you should help get rid of that part of him who is angry, sad and disappointed to have been betrayed by your parents. So much for the child. But you also need to rid yourself of that part of you that wants to be the parent of your parents. This is typical of Lightworkers at some point, age adult, they start to feel to be the parents of their parents. Because of their innate desire to teach and heal, and their spiritual consciousness awakened, they often see the fears and illusions of their parents and want to heal. This can create numerous conflicts with your parents as your desire to help often mingles an unconscious need to be recognized for what you really are. In other words, the injured child speaks through you when you try to help your parents and it is a recipe for disaster when you try to help others through your injuries. You will end up being even more injured and your parents probably irritated or disturbed.
Letting go of your parent means letting go of all desire to change. You have to understand that this is not your task to lead them somewhere. Your mission is to take care of your own way, that's all. After you are really separated from your parents and have let go of the double link to find a new space opens up between you, much more free and open. If they are still alive, the relationship with your parents can relax, as the energies of blame and guilt have left the scene. On the other hand, you may want to see less often. It may simply be a lack of common interests. In all cases, you may feel freer in that relationship, you draw your path without needing approval or tend to annoy you or make you angry if they do not agree with you.
In your life, you can now get in touch with people who are on your spiritual family. Your spiritual family has nothing to do with biology, genes or heredity. It is a family of souls in affinity. Very often, you know since many lives you have forged bonds of friendship, love or shared a mission. It's easy to live with them because you share an affinity interior, you belong to the same family. You live a sort of homecoming. What makes you different and alone among the others before becoming the glue of your fellowship and your gratitude. Create links with your spiritual family is a source of joy on earth. The key to allow in your life is to find your way out beyond the valley and to recognize the light within you. When you are able to recognize your own light in an environment that does not refer to you, you become independent and free. Relieved aspects your karmic history, fears and illusions that hold you back, you will attract into your life relationships based on respect and love and that reflect your awakened divinity.
© 2005 Pamela KRIBB
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